The team at ECR has developed a great empathy for the family and friends of people with addiction problems. We realise they are also suffering from the terrible effects of addiction, that more often than not they are dragged into the suffering and chaos by association.
They often live with far too much stress and fear caused by the unpredictability and feelings of powerlessness, and this often causes incredible strain and unhappiness in their relationships; often wishing the addiction would come to an end, believing one more time ‘that this time it’s going to be different’; hoping against hopes that something will change and your loved one will come back to their senses and start behaving normally!
Not knowing what the right thing to do and how to make it stop is a big issue for most people involved with an addiction sufferer. We wish we could say that we have a quick and easy solution; however the fact of the matter is there isn’t such a thing, and for most people a 28-day detox is not going to be enough to stop it either. Although just 1 to 28 days can be enough time for a physical detox, it is very rarely enough time to deal with any underlying issues or to teach people the true nature of addiction and what they can do about it for a life-long solution! For some people 28 days is fine if they follow up with the 12 Step program and take on board our suggestions.
Please note, the length of treatment can be discussed in the initial assessment stage, however, the level of support a client truly needs only becomes clear as they start to work through the recovery treatment process.
The best solution we could hope for is that your loved one comes in to treatment, embraces the abstinent recovery program and the therapeutic process ( we call this hitting rock bottom), decide to stay for the full term of their treatment and at the end of their treatment period are willing to follow the on-going treatment program we suggest; following in the footsteps of many millions around the world who have successfully becoming completely abstinent.
Rarely have we seen a person fail who thoroughly followed our path
The biggest problem we find with addiction is it’s mostly misunderstood, even by doctors, medical professionals, therapists/counsellors, and government-funded projects. People try and do the right thing and offer help, support and advice that, in theory, should improve the situation of a rational minded person. Families do anything and everything to try and help the addicted person, yet the situation normally just keeps getting worse! Eventually, the family members realise they have become an enabler; they are willing to admit they know what they’re doing isn’t working, but they are also afraid to stop helping. At ECR we call that being stuck in a hostage situation! We find that people who do not understand addiction and continually try and support the addiction sufferer, almost always become enablers.
It’s exhausting to keep up the helping when you know it doesn’t work, and if you’re honest with yourself, all your help just doesn’t seem to be enough. It’s when the family and friends realise that their best efforts haven’t succeeded that they become willing to seek out professional treatment. It’s an important step for families to admit their loved one has a problem and that they are powerless to help. Don’t get us wrong, if it wasn’t for the family and friends supporting people with addiction problems, many more would die. It’s just accepting they need a more affective kind of treatment.
The help East Coast Recovery can offer you during your loved ones stay in treatment are as follows:
We would encourage you to come to one of our free monthly family groups. At a family group, you will learn the causes of addiction and the best treatments. You can also ask questions. Even if you loved one is not in treatment with us, you are still welcome to come to a family group free of charge; all you have to do is call and let us know your coming.
Join an Al-Anon family group in your area.
We have attached our family information package please read and make an effort to follow the suggestion we have made
Please call and speak to our staff if you have any fears of concerns that you would like help with.