Welcome to Love Recovery. As this is our first newsletter in 2018 we thought that we would celebrate the success of our clients both past and present! Inspiration comes to us all and the past 6 weeks has been no exception.
Every week we take our clients out to take part in an activity, over the weeks we have been bowling, walking on the beach and quasar to name a few. Our featured activity in August was a trip to Africa Alive and everyone had a brilliant time, it is always a pleasure to see our clients enjoying themselves on their road to recovery! We are looking forward to Septembers activities.
East Coast Recovery are extremely proud of Adam, he is an ex client of ours and is now a Trainee Support worker here. Adam completed the Dunwich Dynamo cycle event where he cycled from Suffolk to London. Here is what Adam had to say about his achievement. “I would like to thank everyone who has helped me and all the team at East Coast Recovery. One day at a time I get to live a life I can be proud of and I never thought I would be doing things like this”
Lester’s Words of Wisdom
I would like to start by thanking all our partners and friends who have supported us to navigate the difficult journey of the ever-present cutbacks that the addiction field is seemingly always battling with! A MASSIVE heartfelt thank you to all our FANTASTIC staff that ALWAYS go the extra mile in delivering the message of Recovery, while ensuring a very high level of care, love and attention to client’s, as well as their families and loved ones. We regularly witness people attain a life-long solution in regards to addiction and rebuild their lives.
Over my 27 years of working closely with people suffering from addiction disorder, I have come to the firm conclusion that addiction is a spiritual (higher minded) detachment, leading to a mental disorder. Effective treatment or Recovery, I believe, is ALWAYS possible!
The reason I think some people either struggle to recover, or do not recover at all, is really quite simple, they don’t get enough treatment or – probably more importantly – the right kind of treatment. It’s an empirical and common-sense based fact that some people need a lot of treatment for a long time, and others need a lot of treatment for a shorter time. But in my experience they are going to need a lot of the right kind of treatment at the beginning of their recovery journey.
When I started out on my own recovery journey most people I met had never known anyone who had become drug, alcohol and mind-altering substance free. In fact many believed it was simply not possible! My main message for this East Coast Recovery news letter is that recovery is always possible! If someone is not recovering and becoming abstinent, it’s more than likely that it is simply because they are not getting enough treatment or the ‘right’ kind… like most illnesses!
“I am so grateful I was given the opportunity to go to East coast Recovery, it is honestly the best thing I have ever done. I was 6 years soba on 13th April 2018. I was there for 12 weeks and I walked away a transformed person. If I hadn’t had the chance and taken it I would probably be dead”
“I’ve never been to ECR but I know many whose lives have been saved and Improved by the unconditional love and support from the ECR team.” Long may it continue” .
“I came into treatment completely broken inside, I really struggled at the begining, but the love, support, empathy and compassion from staff and clients, helped me heal. The tools I learnt at ECR have Been invaluable in my life and I will be eternally grateful. Thank you so much x”
My Perspective: Sonja on Progression
Progression to me means moving forward and developing, getting better and becoming successful in all areas of life. I have learned this from my time being around the 12 step forum, from my own experiences and the experiences of others that progression comes from, willingness, open mindedness, hard work, learning from mistakes, believing we’re good enough and accepting you need help. Once your mind is on fire, alive and raring to go then I believe progression is a natural development we experience.
What’s Your Perspective?
We’d love to hear your “perspective”. We may use in the next edition of “Love Recovery”.
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Hi my name is Leah and I am a recovering addict. This isn’t something which I was always aware of, and it took me a lot of soul searching and acceptance to be able to say this with conviction.
I grew up in Bristol, where drinking and taking drugs seemed normal, and from the age of 14 I was drinking and smoking canabis. This spiraled, as addiction does and by the age of 24 I was using crack and heroin. My daughter had reminded me that Christmas time 2010 I was released from hospital following another stint in intensive care at the time I didn’t consider her feelings I was extremely selfish. I was so poorly and utterly convinced that I was over with using, but within a week I was buying drugs again.
At the time my mum worked in the health sector and told me about East Coast Recovery, before coming here I had no idea about addiction or even what the word meant. Throughout my whole using days I only knew that I always had to be something other than me. I arrived at ECR in March 2011, and My Journey into recovery began. At the start everything was such a whirlwind and all I knew is that I desperately wanted to be OK.
I found it helpful that some of the staff were also in recovery from addiction and somehow were living their lives free of substance. The day I surrendered and made the decision to accept that I needed to recover was the day my mum and my daughters dad came to the center and had an intervention with me. This was lead by the head therapist and senior support worker. The light bulb moment for me was when letters were read out to me telling me how my addiction had affected them, it was powerful and made me appreciate others feelings. From my first day at ECR I was shown love, acceptance, boundaries, understanding, self esteem and how to love myself.
Since leaving I have completed a degree and working full time as a senior in the domestic abuse services. I am also an active member of cocaine anonymous and I attend three meetings per week. Going to East Coast Recovery and learning about the disease I suffer from, and how to recover is the biggest gift I have ever received. My daughter trusts me and the only thing my mum worries about today is that I’m working too hard. As a teenager I used to watch women in their nice clothes going to work and feeling totally in awe of them, wondering “how do they do that?”, and today I am one of those women.
We are excited to announce that we will be launching our Radio Podcast Service inspired by client music choices very soon! Podcasts will be available across our social network and our website. Make sure you like our pages to be the first to hear this exciting news.
A Mothers Raw Journey
Nineteen years ago my journey began, a journey so deep and dark that life at times seemed impossible and never-ending. My firstborn child, my beautiful, loving, caring, kind sweet daughter fell into the arms of the devil and began a life of lies, deceit, crime and in my view summed up "hell". I didn't see it coming and certainly didn't heed the warning signs, I was naive to the people and the places she would go and how her life revolved around them. The depths of this degrading life began immediately for me as soon as the word "heroin" was spat out of that beautiful mouth, a mouth that would soon continually gape open as her head would drop to her shoulders and she would leave the world to find another that she craved consistently. I remember when those very first needles pierced her skin she no longer cared for anyone or anything and I became a slave to her every movement, every breath and she took me down with her.
I can't remember or maybe I don't want to, the time when I realised our journey ahead was going to mean that so much would change. So much of me being a mother to my other children, so much of me being a wife to my husband, so much of me being a daughter and a sister. This was my reality now. Life was a constant battle daily, weekly, monthly, yearly. The years passed by before my eyes and my life became a battle of having to go to work, raise my family and trying vigilantly protect and care for my daughter knowing that any minute then I could get another call saying "She's naked in the street", "She's been arrested", "She's been evicted", "she's crashed her car or "she's in an ambulance". If I'm honest I hated that life and there were times I just wanted to give up and I would find myself wanting to say I love you but I don't like you on a daily basis. My daughter became a constant drain on my mind, body soul and heart and I remember at the time thinking that it would be better if the drugs would take her, if she died she couldn't destroy the lives of those around her. The guilt of these thoughts has never left me today. I didn't give up on her and over the space of two years, she became my crusade. I needed to heal her, make her the mother she needed to be for her children, help her regain the self-respect she had lost and given her the chance to rediscover that beautiful, kind sweet hearted child I brought n to the world. I was tested every day she didn't care if she was at home, on the street, in one of the numerous rehab centers we sent her to, hostels, police stations it didn't matter to her and I could see in her eyes she wasn't ready to accept that this was her fate. I could tell that deep down inside she didn't want this but she couldn't fight it alone and no matter how much support she had it would never be enough. Neither one of us could understand why she couldn't fight this daemon that consumed her. This for me was perhaps the darkest moment and time of all, what would what would she have to fight for? why would she want to remain in the world that she felt no longer needed. It could have been her easy way out of the hell shes desperately wanted to leave and I watched her.
Then that magical moment came, I received a call from East Coast Recovery and slowly Lester, Sonja, Matt, and all the team took over the role of keeping her safe and releasing me from the fear that overwhelmed me constantly. I can't remember how long it took for me to relax back in to the role of being a mother again, to be able to leave the house without my mobile and to be able to ask people to visit the house without the worry of answering questions and create a cover story for her but eventually I did. Though it was easier for me, on the whole, I still had the fear that she could give up yet again to that life and the nightmare we lived would be resumed. I don't think I ever gave up on her though and I encouraged her every step of the way, still sometimes to the detriment of my own life.
Four years ago my journey took another path and life took on another meaning for us both. Slowly that beautiful loving, kind, sweet child came back to me as a strong, confident and selfless woman. It was upsetting seeing how much we had missed, the warm hugs, loving conversations and teasing jibes between us that began so many years later than it should have. I began to want to hold her and not constantly push her away. I wanted to listen more knowing that what passed her lips was honest, our relationship as mother and daughter grew again. I saw a world other than hers and gripped it with both, hands a new way of life began for me and I believe it can only get stronger. The journey isn't over and I know that it continues openly and I crave more of this new life with her. I am positive and happy where we are right now and proud of surviving where we have both been. and perhaps because of her faith, I have new beliefs myself.
Questions for Lester
We would like to offer everyone the opportunity to ask Lester any questions they may have regarding recovery. Lester and the amazing team that facilitate treatment here at ECR will help you understand that recovery is possible and sustainable.