That’s the most important question to ask yourself before committing to stop drinking / using. Ok so maybe you’re reading this because either you’re thinking about stopping drink/drugs, or you’re even in your early days of recovery… wondering what changes you will need to make.
So what changes have to happen? Firstly a change is ‘an act or process through which something becomes different’. The obvious change would be to seek help to stop your addiction, maybe you are starting to realise the damage that has gone on in your life and that you can’t go on using/drinking; maybe having hit your ‘rock bottom.’ Everyone’s choice to change is made for different reasons, such as health worries, losing connections with loved ones or just having had enough of the constant chaos.
Next, you need to admit you are an addict. It sounds simple, but people can miss this simple but vital recognition. We can be great at minimising the real impact of what our addictive personality has had on ourselves and others. How many times have you used the terms “I can stop when I want”, “It’s only at weekends” or the biggest lie going “It doesn’t affect anyone else”? Be honest for a second… you’re not reading this because your addiction is manageable or you’re in control.
You’ve probably tried to stop and may have done for short periods, but the craving returns. There is always some reason that comes along that justifies to yourself that you need to start again. How many times have you made promises to stop, taken advice, but then found yourself with a needle in your arm or a bottle in your hand again? Are you ready for change?
They are restless, irritable and discontented unless they can again experience the sense of ease and comfort which comes at once by taking a few drinks—drinks which they see others taking with impunity. After they have succumbed to the desire again, as so many do, and the phenomenon of craving develops, they pass through the well-known stages of a spree, emerging remorseful, with a firm resolution not to drink again. This is repeated over and over, and unless this person can experience an entire psychic change there is very little hope of his recovery.Alcoholics Anonymous
The need to change
At a point where you can realise that you need change, and want to do what it takes to make the change, can be incredibly empowering. It may feel like a weakness to admit needing help, especially if you’ve spent so much of your life being self-sufficient. The reality is that help is available and recovery from addiction requires connection with others who can relate; without judgement. Addiction is being a slave to a substance or behaviour that you cannot stop despite the fact it causes harm; without it you become irritable and have intense cravings.
ECR gives you an intensive start for a 12 Step recovery programme; showing a way of living in which principles are acted upon every day. It is a ‘one day at a time’ process. Too much of our thinking can cause ourselves pain by dwelling on our past or fearing what the future may hold, whereas in recovery the focus is more on the ‘now.’
Please take a look at our client testimonials – can you relate?
Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program, usually men and women who are constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves.Big Book
Addict death or Spiritual life?
These are the two options where Recovery is concerned. This can also be explained as Closed Mind (addict death) or Open Mind (spiritual life). ECR offer a programme which is a unique and powerful blend of proven techniques for changing unhealthy or addictive patterns of thinking and behaviours. These include a foundation in the use of 12 Step programme, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy and delivered by people with personal experience who know what works.
The Twelve Steps and Spiritual Principles
- We admitted we were powerless over our addiction – that our lives had become unmanageable. Acceptance.
- Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. Faith.
- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. Surrender and Trust.
- Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. Honesty.
- Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. Courage.
- Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. Willingness.
- Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings. Humility.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. Forgiveness.
- Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. Freedom.
- Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. Perseverance.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out. Patience.
- Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics and to practice these principles in all our affairs. Charity and Love.
We do not ask you to believe in anything except … recovery is possible.